Sunday, November 20, 2011

Happy Birthday Jesse!

Jesse and Jen

Today is the birthday of my one and only son, Jesse Andrew Chomick. My “baby” is now a 6’4” man but still a softie on the inside. 
Jesse is a bit of an adrenaline junky ... he loves to push the limits with snow boarding and requested avalanche gear for his birthday. Gulp. He yearns for the snow and is thrilled to spend weekend after weekend on the slopes and in the back country. Summer finds him working on the truck that he is completely rebuilding or out on the water with his friends. He is following in his father’s footsteps and is more than 2/3 of the way through his welding apprenticeship. Jesse can be quiet like his dad but never lets a day go by without telling me he loves me. He isn’t afraid to give hugs to those he cares about and is a loyal friend. He loves and is loved by Jen. Jesse is a self taught videographer and enjoys putting together short films of the things he loves to do. He's a talented young man with a whole future ahead to show us all the amazing things he can do!
Happy Birthday Jesse! You are one unique and wonderful person! I love you!

Sunday, November 13, 2011

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!

It's my birthday today! Recently I asked my kids to finish this statement:
"the most important thing I learned in my childhood from my mom was .... "

Since today is all about me (oh brother), i thought I'd share what they had to say.

JESSE: There are a lot of things you taught me. Well you taught me school from grade 2 - 6 so there must of been a lot of things taught in that span! But I think the top 3 would be how much God loves me. How much family means. And how to manage my money would be the third.

DALYCE: The most important thing I learned from my mom was to never stop being a dreamer. Go after the impossible, be wild and free. dream big...  I remember saying funny/wild comments to my mom about things I wanted to be when I grew up or what I wanted to do. She'd buy us microscopes when we wanted to be scientists or doctors or put us in music lessons when we wanted to be famous. She'd start brainstorming for me/with me, with my dad about how to help me succeed in my dreams and desires. Nothing was too big for her to help me fight for or strive to get or become. In her eyes I could be anyone, do anything. So maybe what I really learned from her was to never give up, keep going. Dreams are just the starting point at finding or becoming who you were meant to be. My mom taught me how to believe, how to be strong, how to fight for the things you see that are good but mainly she taught me that being happy isn't cookie cutter, life isn't built up of formulas or certain steps that will bring you success and happiness, rather she taught me that life is hard but worth the fight of knowing you are leaving a mark on this world. That dreams are meant to inspire you to figuring out what you like and what you don't. That being different is ok. That we're all special and we'll all live life a little differently than the people around you, and that's ok. 

ALYSSA: I think one of the main things I remember about my childhood was there was so much support and freedom. We were really allowed to chase whatever dream came to mind-- 

You were completely loving and tender and comforting-- but you let us fall, make mistakes, pick ourselves up, and keep going. You and dad were our biggest cheerleaders. You let us break arms, skin our knees and get dirty. I guess, when looking back, the feeling I have about my childhood was freedom with loving boundaries. You had this framework for us to live in // "fences" to keep us safe // but within that we were allowed to spread our wings and try and fail and try again.

I was never worried you weren't going to be there. You were always a constant. Like I said, I could try new things, step out of my child-like "comfort zone", and I KNEW that you would be there. I knew that you and Dad would be at every swim meet, every parent-teacher interview, every basketball game... I never had to think twice about that. Something I probably totally took for granted, but something that I know allowed me to flourish because of the SECURITY.

Thank you my dear children! I love you all so much!

Friday, September 9, 2011

I was in prison and you came to visit me

It’s been a busy summer and the new blog has suffered. I spent a couple of weeks in Ukraine and there is so much that I could tell you about the trip. Little by little I’ll share with you the adventures and heartbreak I experienced. 
I arrived in L’viv on Wednesday evening, July 27th. Getting there was an adventure of it’s own, a story for another day. On Thursday a full day was planned for us. We visited a state-run orphanage for babies and pre-schoolers, the hospital ward at a huge prison, I met one of my sponsored kids and we participated in food distribution as part of HART’s child sponsorship program. I want to tell you about the prison.
The L’viv City Prison is in the downtown area of L’viv. It houses thousands of prisoners in conditions that bring to mind World War II or Soviet era movies. Think bleak, barren, run down, miserable and then make it even worse.
Let’s start at the beginning ... we all had to produce our passports for this visit, leave all our belongings behind (no cameras, no money) and then we entered the prison. We were going in with a ministry group from one of the churches who go in to visit the prisoners in the hospital ward of the prison, bring them hope and some treats (cookies, fruit, chocolate, etc.). We helped carry in the boxes of food and then the door clanged shut behind us. I’m trying to be calm about the fact that I’ve given my passport to someone I don’t know, in a country that isn’t known for honesty and trustworthiness (especially in police and government officials), in a place I don’t speak the language, in a prison where there is no exit available to me. Yikes.
The first room we were in was something that reminded me of a LubeX bay --- vehicles would pass through here and there was this weird deep pit they had to travel over. At first I thought it was for servicing vehicles and then we realized the purpose was to have someone in the pit examining the bottom of vehicles as they left the prison. This wasn’t a game we were playing - this was real. 
We moved all the food boxes into the hallway of a prison wing. Prison blocks/cells led off this hallway. The women from the church began to sort the food into bags for each cell. Our group took a couple of bags and headed into the first hospital ward/cell.
Now, when you think hospital ward, you’re probably envisioning those mint green or robin’s egg blue walls at the hospital you last visited, where the floors are tiled in shiny linoleum squares, big windows in each room, overhead lighting that can be dimmed in a number of options, white curtains to pull around each bed for privacy, hospital beds that adjust in seventeen different ways, nurses with white uniforms, stethoscopes & lots of machines beeping and flashing lights.
The guard opened the first cell and the first thing I saw was cigarette smoke so thick the room had that grey misty, hazy feel of a film noir - late at night the mist rolls in across the bay. This haze had the smell of European tobacco - acrid, nasty, unpleasant. Let me add that the same thing happened in every cell we went into yet we never once saw a cigarette. I suspect smoking is not allowed and as soon as the key rattles in the lock all the cigarettes disappear. For the most part the walls and floor were bare concrete.
Each cell was about 10 feet wide by 24 feet long. I know this because one of the cells had ceramic tiles along one wall. I counted 48 tiles and estimating they were 6” I guessed the room would be about 24 feet long. The width wasn’t much more than 10 feet wide because 2 beds wouldn’t fit end to end across the room.
Beds ... 8 to a cell. Different layouts in different cells but packed so tightly the inmates could barely move between the beds. One cell had three rows of cots - the rows separated by a row not more than a foot wide. Simple cots with a thin mattress and a couple of greying, various colored blankets on each.
In one corner of each cell there was a cinder block wall about 4 feet high enclosing a space about 5 foot square. In that lovely little corner was a squat toilet and small, dirty sink. No privacy, no odor control. I had been warned about the smells in the ward from the latrine but I think the tobacco smoke overpowered the toilet. Each cell has a pecking order with the highest on the roost getting beds nearest the window ... and furthest away from the latrine.
Sick prisoners from any part of Ukraine are sent to this ward in the prison in L’viv. There did not appear to be any onsite, attending medical staff. I’m assuming that a doctor or nurse saw them occasionally but no serious medical treatment was offered. Each cell contained 8 people - either all men or all women. One man in one ward had a growth on his chest the size of a watermelon.
The people we were with go into the prison to share the love of Jesus and give these inmates some hope in a dreary, hopeless world. Through an interpreter some of the prisoners shared they were there to die. The man leading our group used to be a prisoner in one of Ukraine’s prisons. He gave his life to Jesus and when released determined that he had to go back into the prison to share that same hope with those incarcerated. In each cell (we visited 6 or 7) he would share, someone from the group would share their testimony or a word of hope, we’d leave the food and move on. The inmates welcomed the visit, probably glad for a change in their dreary day.
I’ve reached the end of this story and don’t have an uplifting moral to share or a challenge to give you. About all I can say is if you are in Canada, the US or one of many other free and democratic countries in the world, be grateful for where you live and do not take it for granted. Think of those in countries where their freedom is not guaranteed and where prison is an awful hell they are living. Remember Matt 25:36.
Oh one smile before I wrap this one up - as we were leaving the prison, the guard had our stack of passports and called each person’s name from the passport and compared the picture. I was second last to be called ... still trying to be calm. The guard then smiled and said that was all the passports he had. Darrel was standing next to me and his name hadn’t been called. The guard then laughed, gave Darrel his passport and we were free to leave. Prison humor ... 

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Those Kowalsky's

We all do crazy things once in a while. It happens, caught up in the moment, influenced by those around us, we can do things that later have us shaking our heads, wondering how that happened. I’m not talking “riot and plunder downtown Vancouver” kind of lunacy. I’m talking about the impulse purchase or maybe the peanut buster parfait when you were planning to watch what you ate that day.

A few of my craziest moments include the word “Kowalsky”. I have some wonderful, adventure seeking, outdoor loving, adrenaline rush cousins that inspire me, challenge me and either make me want to do things I’ve never done before or give me the encouragement and support to do the thing I’ve always wanted to do but never quite had the guts to make happen. The first time I climbed a mountain (a scramble, not a “ropes and carabiner” climb) was with Glenn and Laura K. When I jumped out of an airplane, it was with the blessing and encouragement of Mark K. This weekend was another of those moments. 

The first impulsive part of the weekend was deciding to join Mark & Glenn in Golden. Mark flew out from Ontario to compete in the National Hang Gliding Championships. Glenn was driving his camper to Golden and planning to get in some Para Gliding while there. Since Bear had plans to be gone at a bike rally, I thought I’d hop in the car and head west. Friday evening found me sitting by the campfire with Mark, catching up and enjoying his company, surrounded by the glorious mountains, smelling the pine trees and hearing a loon call in the distance … I kid you not, it was that idyllic. Oh and swatting mosquitoes – that made it more real.  

Saturday I watched Mark fly. I watched Glenn fly. I watched dozens of others fly. I drove the van down from the top of the mountain (and met another car at the narrowest point of the road and Thought. I. Was. Going. To. Die). At the landing zone, I heard a guy say he does tandem hang gliding flights. Hmmm. Interesting. So I chatted with said guy, got prices, talked times (Sunday morning would work) and didn’t commit to anything.  

Sunday I watched people fly. I did the drive from the top of the mountain again. I wasn’t convinced I wanted to do the hang gliding thing but I also didn’t want to go home without SOME excitement! Just then 3 tandem Para Gliders landed in the field. Para Gliding looked so peaceful, yet so exciting, maybe this is the one to do. Quick discussion with the guy – found out they had one spot available in an hour. Borrowed money from Glenn (no time to go to the bank) and arranged that Glenn would be the top of the mountain photographer and Mark would be the landing zone photographer.  

Hop in the truck, back up to the top of the mountain … and this driver was nuts. Drove close to the edge and FAST all the way. Had me gripping the handle and leaning over a guy I’d never met before. I don’t like heights. (Yes, I realize I’m about to go Para Gliding – but I don’t like heights and this all makes sense to me). 

Top of the mountain … spread out the wing, start donning the harness (kind of looks like a snail shell, makes your butt look big). Hugo begins telling me how it will all work … “see this steep slope, we’ll run down it. Start slow and then run really hard. Just run off the mountain.” Seriously? You want me to run off the mountain? We’re ready to go … Hugo says “in 3 we’ll start running.” I said, “Wait ... wait. Just wait.” Deep breath, look over at Glenn, I can do this, right? Glenn takes a picture, smiles and then … “Okay, I’m ready.” "One, two, three.” And we started running. Three steps in the wing inflates and feels like an anchor but once it’s up then we can really start running. The wing gave me confidence, I could feel its support, I can do this!  

And then we were sailing, floating, FLYING! Yes, I admit I screamed as we left terra firma but honestly it was a scream of excitement and joy. We floated over the valley, looking at the river, the highway, the trees … oh look, an eagle in the top of that tree … campgrounds, farms. So peaceful, so exciting, so fun. All too quickly we were preparing for landing. Touchdown was easy and light. No twisted ankles (like the skydiving day). What a rush!



The best of it all was sharing it with Mark and Glenn! Thanks guys! Only one question left … when can I do it again??

Thursday, June 30, 2011

Let me ask you a question ...

I have spent most of my life asking questions, trying to find out the answers to everything! I've especially wanted to know the answers to the big questions in life ... but then I began to wonder - what ARE the big questions? That led me to analyze, obsess, rehash, and evaluate as I am wont to do when an idea or question is bugging me. When I didn't find the solution, I began a quest of collecting quotes about questions and answers. Strange collection, I know, but these quotes often say what I've been trying to put into words but haven't been able to phrase. Some really big thinkers in both distant and recent history have had something to say on this topic. Some of these quotes are from books I've read, some are gathered from the internet and other sources. I don't know who all of the authors are but I still like what they have to say. There's one in the list that cracks me up (can you figure out which one?) and one that at first made me so mad I could spit (but as I think about it ... it may be accurate). I left the one that is mine until the end. That one sums up where I'm at today when it comes to questions.
  • Answers are usually easier than we want to think. It's the questions that tear a person apart. Deborah Smith, Stone Flower Garden
  • I think everyone has "the answer' they need from God, But I don't think everybody has the same questions. Lisa Samson, Straight Up
  • When things are good we have no questions and when things are bad we have no answers. Unknown
  • We hear only those questions for which we are in a position to find answers. Friedrich Nietzsche
  • Judge a man by his questions rather than than his answers. Voltaire
  • There is frequently more to be learned from the unexpected questions of a child than the discourse of men. John Locke
  • You don't want a million answers as much as you want a few forever questions. Richard Bach
  • If there are no stupid questions, then what kind of questions do stupid people ask? Do they get smart just in time to ask questions? Scott Adams
  • We thought that we had the answers, it was the questions we had wrong. Bono
  • It is better to know some of the questions than all of the answers. James Thurber
  • I don't pretend we have all the answers. But the questions are certainly worth thinking about. Arthur C. Clarke 
  • Christians, like slaves and soldiers, ask no questions. Jerry Falwell
  • When we get to heaven, I don't think we'll have all the answers but I think we'll finally know the right questions. Me!


Here's how I see it ... I think heaven will be boring if I know the answers to EVERYTHING upon arrival. I love to learn and research and read and inquire so I think I will have the opportunity to do that in heaven. But instead of wasting my time with inane and inconsequential questions, I'll finally know what really matters and so I'll know the right questions to explore. I don't think heaven will be the same for all of us, so don't worry, you might know it all when you get there.

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Happy Birthday Dalyce!

Today is my daughter's birthday. Dalyce Brianne June arrived on the first day of summer in Yellowknife, NWT. Summer Solstice was always a celebrated day in the north and Dalyce's arrival just made it more so.
Let me tell you about Dalyce ...
She is beautiful, inside and out. She is full of fun and mischief! She's always had a twinkle in her eye and a plan up her sleeve. She puts you at ease and sometimes makes you uneasy. She loves to sing and sings to those she loves. She pursues her passions and isn't content to let life just happen to her. She has overcome her fears in so many ways. She gives herself wholeheartedly to whatever she does. She's creative. She marches to her own beat but is always in step with those around her. She's an artist in her approach to life, beauty, fashion, and design. She chases after God and wants to know Him intimately.
If you don't know her, your life is not complete. If you do know her, I know you'll only have more to add to what I've said.
Happy Birthday Dalyce! I'm so glad you are who you are and that you are family.
Check out her website! http://beautybydalyce.blogspot.com

Monday, June 13, 2011

and so it begins ...

Coming up with a topic for your first ever blog is intimidating, difficult, intense, and exhausting but here it goes … I think I’ll start with why this blog is called Moonlight and Hope.


My given name is Cynthia Hope. If you google the meaning of the name Cynthia, you’ll usually get something about “goddess of the moon” or something like that. I also found one definition that said “bringer of light”. I like that … I like to think that I bring light into people’s lives or at least that I try to. The name Hope doesn’t need much explanation. I love what it means and I’m happy to have it as my middle name. My husband (his name is Barry Norman Alexander Joseph) likes the word hope and how it’s meaning changes when you have faith. If I use the word ‘hope’ to say something like “I hope it’s sunny tomorrow,” what I’m really saying is “I have no assurance or guarantee but I’m wishing it would be sunny tomorrow.” As a Christian, if I say “My hope is in the Lord” that is assurance with a guarantee. Okay, enough preaching.


I grew up on the Great Hope Ranch and was named after the ranch. Now maybe being named after a piece of property wouldn’t thrill you, but I loved that place, loved being a farm kid (felt sorry for city kids), loved living in a coulee, loved having horses and pigs and chickens and cows (but hated the work that went along with them), loved the creek, loved the crocuses on the hill in the spring, loved knowing my directions because of the north gate, the west gate and the east gate (just had to figure out south), loved the barn (the tuck room, the Indian motorcycle stored behind the manger, the hay loft with the empty pigeon coop), loved the garage (used to be the old house with school desks upstairs and other treasures in nooks and crannies), loved the old school house, loved the storage buildings and the discarded treasures they held, loved the shop (with the big bellows and forge furnace). I could go on and on (and I just did) … I loved where I grew up so being named after it was an honour and a thrill.


So I love my name, right? Well, yes and no. I love my middle name. I don’t like being called Cynthia (too snooty) and don’t really like Cyndi either (sounds like a cheerleader from the 60’s). Cindy was a very popular name for poodles at one time, too. I don’t want to be called Cynthia, I’m not crazy about Cyndi/Cindy, I don’t want to change my name so I guess I’m hooped.


Now comes the real question … to tattoo or not to tattoo? Yes, my children, I am seriously considering this question. A friend of mine (whose middle name also happens to be Hope) had Fierce Hope tattooed on her forearm. Her first name means “fierce” … I love it. That’s what got me thinking about the meaning of my name.


Goddess of the moon Hope doesn’t have the same ring. My last name means “hamster” in Polish but Hamster Hope lacks the class I was kind of going for when/if I get a tattoo. Then I stumbled across “bringer of light” and I thought I could go for Light and Hope. I like the image of both of those words. I’m not completely committed to the idea of a tattoo but I think I know what I’ll get IF and WHEN I decide to go for it.


I wanted my blog to be Light and Hope but that’s already taken. Moonlight and Hope is a bit more ethereal, a bit more mystical, a bit more mysterious … and a bit more available.


So stick with me if you want, ignore me if that’s the way you lean. I don’t know how often I’ll blog (hopefully more than once … lighthope.blogspot.com blogged once in 2003 and never again … lightandhope.blogspot.com blogged once in 2006 and never again), I don’t know what I’ll blog about. There may be pictures once in a while, hopefully something to make you think, make you smile, make you cry (or at least make you feel) – but hopefully not all at once.


Peace! (because this really feels like a hippy dippy start to blogging)